It is a sad thing to see what had started out as a friendship turn suddenly to something that has a person apprehensive to open even a simple email. People disagree about things all the time... right? Right.
Why is it that some people think they have the right to tell others what they can or cannot do? Who they should and shouldn't respect? Things like that are an individual's right. It should be dictated by that individuals own views and beliefs -- not by what others, or society, tell them it should be. It is our differences that make this world NOT be absolutely boring.
But some people, despite stating that they have let things go will use any little perceived slight to attack another person. They misread something because they only took the time to skim the letter, email, what-have-you and see what they want to see within the text of the document.
Even when told “You misread that. Please read it again.” they do not always do that and continue on with their angry tirade. I don’t understand this nor do I understand bullies. Others have tried to explain it to me with the excuses of: Oh that person is going through this, that, or whatever. Or the ever popular: That is just who they are, don’t take it personally.
Whenever one individual is constantly misreading things from a specific individual, When things like that have happened so often and has been spewed outward directed at one individual… how is that individual not supposed to take it personally? How are they to attend events where there is a great chance the bully will be there?
How are they expected to enjoy and learn from an event when they are concerned the bully will take the opportunity to change from written verbal abuse to face to face verbal abuse or worse… physical abuse? This bullying is not a secret; others have bore witness to it. When confronted by others the bully has been contrite, apologetic and gone so far as to state that they didn’t realize that what they were doing was being perceived in that manner and they would work on being a better person.
People say to just avoid the bully, call them out on their behavior, to stand up to them even. What does one do when all of that seems to be to no avail? What does one do when a third person brings the bully into a conversation and the bully uses that as an excuse to start yet again in their assault against the individual person?
I am asking these things because I personally know someone going through this very thing. It has been going on for over a year and despite trying to avoid the bully. They still want to attend events and completely miss the group of individuals that attend these specific functions. But they do not go because they don’t want to deal with the bully. Last time an event was attended the bully kept physically getting into the personal space of the person they were targeting. Even going to far as to try and stroke their arm in the manner a friend would do. All the while the bully is saying, "I miss our friendship. Why can't we be friends. Even if you don't like me I like you and still want to be your friend."
Not being able to attend the events has become somewhat detrimental to the person’s well being. I am at a loss as to what they should do. The idea of obtaining a restraining order is a bit much for them, as that would mean they themselves would not be able to attend the group functions without being in violation of the order. They have completely removed the ability of the bully to contact them be it by phone, email or Facebook.
Thank you all for letting me vent. Perhaps a solution to my friends’ problem will be found and all will be well again. Only time will tell. I hope you all are having a safe and fun weekend.
Blessed Be Everyone.
Why is it that some people think they have the right to tell others what they can or cannot do? Who they should and shouldn't respect? Things like that are an individual's right. It should be dictated by that individuals own views and beliefs -- not by what others, or society, tell them it should be. It is our differences that make this world NOT be absolutely boring.
But some people, despite stating that they have let things go will use any little perceived slight to attack another person. They misread something because they only took the time to skim the letter, email, what-have-you and see what they want to see within the text of the document.
Even when told “You misread that. Please read it again.” they do not always do that and continue on with their angry tirade. I don’t understand this nor do I understand bullies. Others have tried to explain it to me with the excuses of: Oh that person is going through this, that, or whatever. Or the ever popular: That is just who they are, don’t take it personally.
Whenever one individual is constantly misreading things from a specific individual, When things like that have happened so often and has been spewed outward directed at one individual… how is that individual not supposed to take it personally? How are they to attend events where there is a great chance the bully will be there?
How are they expected to enjoy and learn from an event when they are concerned the bully will take the opportunity to change from written verbal abuse to face to face verbal abuse or worse… physical abuse? This bullying is not a secret; others have bore witness to it. When confronted by others the bully has been contrite, apologetic and gone so far as to state that they didn’t realize that what they were doing was being perceived in that manner and they would work on being a better person.
People say to just avoid the bully, call them out on their behavior, to stand up to them even. What does one do when all of that seems to be to no avail? What does one do when a third person brings the bully into a conversation and the bully uses that as an excuse to start yet again in their assault against the individual person?
I am asking these things because I personally know someone going through this very thing. It has been going on for over a year and despite trying to avoid the bully. They still want to attend events and completely miss the group of individuals that attend these specific functions. But they do not go because they don’t want to deal with the bully. Last time an event was attended the bully kept physically getting into the personal space of the person they were targeting. Even going to far as to try and stroke their arm in the manner a friend would do. All the while the bully is saying, "I miss our friendship. Why can't we be friends. Even if you don't like me I like you and still want to be your friend."
Not being able to attend the events has become somewhat detrimental to the person’s well being. I am at a loss as to what they should do. The idea of obtaining a restraining order is a bit much for them, as that would mean they themselves would not be able to attend the group functions without being in violation of the order. They have completely removed the ability of the bully to contact them be it by phone, email or Facebook.
Thank you all for letting me vent. Perhaps a solution to my friends’ problem will be found and all will be well again. Only time will tell. I hope you all are having a safe and fun weekend.
Blessed Be Everyone.
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